Natural Birth – How do you Stay Positive?

Natural Birth is what all pregnant women strive for, they may not think they do, but they do.  We are all afraid to say that we are GOING to have a natural birth for fear of not coming through with the goods!  I am hear to tell you that thinking this way is exactly how you have the birth you DON’T want! 

Have you heard of the saying:  “What you focus on expands”, I love this and live by it everyday.  What we don’t realize is that whether we focus on positive or negative, it will expand.  This can be applied to how we feel when pregnant and on our journey to birth.  So, is it that simple to just stay positive?  No it is not!! 

Have you ever been walking through the supermarket, your big belly pressing up against the trolley and a stranger comes up to you, smiles and says “when are you due?” You smile and tell her; this somehow translates into, “please tell me your horror story, when I am tired, emotional and already scared!!!”  We have all been there, and we hate it, so why do we then repeat the process over and over again.   

This kind of negative talk is what pregnant women have to deal with everyday, not only their own thoughts, but that of the general public!  As non-pregnant women we must hold our tongue or share a beautiful birth story, or even just say, “You look lovely”, and leave it at that. 

If we don’t fill our own heads with positive self talk then someone will do it for us!!  So ladies, fill you head with all the beautiful things you want out of your natural birth, particularly how you want it to end.  Visualize yourself holding your baby immediately after birth and feel the love wash over you.  Visualize gazing up at your partner, who has tear filled eyes and visualize yourself being able to tend to your own baby without IV drips, painful wounds and hazy thoughts.  You can have a natural birth you just need to stay positive, I mean, talk to yourself and your baby everyday, saying “I just birthed my beautiful baby and I am so happy and grateful that I achieved this naturally”.   

There are many horror stories online today, but there are some beautiful ones as well.  I know it is hard to tear yourself away from a bad story but please do it.  Remember that it all goes in and if you read enough or hear enough negative stories then that is what you start believing. 

I was a midwife when I had my first son so I saw and heard the really negative stuff, which lead to a long, painful, medicated birth.  When I became pregnant with my second son, I knew I had a battle on my hands as I was still working in the birth suite and surrounded by horror stories (there were good ones to).  So I practiced yoga everyday and used this time to fill my head with positives, until, positivity was all that I believed.  I focused on my outcome, which was to have a 4 hour birth, no drugs, no stitches and home the same day……………………..and, YES, I achieved this.  So I know that positive self talk works!! 

I had to write an article like this to show you how to begin your natural birth planning.  This is something so simple, and can be done anywhere.  Why not start by writing your natural birth goal down, you can use my birth plan template from my blog  it is free.  You can stick it on your wall in the bathroom so you read it everyday.  It will only take a few weeks before you are loving your belly and looking forward to your birth. 

If you want more information along these lines, then have a look at my eBook.  I have interviewed 7 natural birth experts, Marie Mongan, founder of Hypnobirthing and Marjie Hathaway, co-founder of The Bradley Method, to name a few.  They are full of positive advice that you can start using today. You can have a look at this amazing new interview series at   Even if you are 39 weeks pregnant, you can still benefit from this advice, you never know, you may just change your whole attitude to birth and have a quick, easy, memorable birth.  It all starts with one thought……….so happy thinking! 

Take Care,


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